Baymonte Blog

14
Jun

5 Tips To Raising Kids In A Digital Age

If you have a teenager, you will probably not be surprised to hear that the most recent studies suggest the average teen spends over nine hours a day in front of a screen. To some of us, this statistic may sound exaggerated, inflated or just flat out wrong, but in my experience with students, this is a conservative number.

This next generation lives online and in front of screens. Between social media and binge watching Netflix, a vast majority of our kids really do live with one foot in an alternate reality.

The reasons I raise the issue of this study is because of the recent conversations I have had with some of my middle school students this year. During lunches I often walk around and float from group to group joining in on conversations and hanging out. Recently, I approached a group as they were discussing the new show they were currently binge watching, 13 Reasons Why, their up-to-date music obsessions including DJ Khaled’s single “I’m The One,” and the all important topic of who had the better lunch and why crust on bread was ever even invented. As kids finished their food the conversations began to die, the group disbanded and a game of nine-square began. A typical Monday lunch.

What was of interest to me was the casualty of tone in which they discussed a few of the ‘afore mentioned topics. Had I been a few years older, or not around young teens everyday, there is a good chance I may not have known what these things were. Reading the paragraph above… do you? Or if you were to see them in the search history of Netflix or iTunes, would you think twice about them?

In case you have not heard of either, here is a brief synopsis:

I’M THE ONE: Amassing over 100+ Million views on YouTube within the first two weeks of its release, the song and music video features major stars like Chance The Rapper and Justin Bieber. The misogynistic lyrics (note: profanities) make the case for why a girl should want to be with them: They’re rich. The video opens with an invitation from Khaled to his crew to come over and “celebrate life, success, and our blessings”. And what are those “blessings”? Girls. Girls that Chance The Rapper and Beiber (both of whom profess to be Christian and have sung worship songs and hymns in concert) talk about in explicit ways.

13 REASONS WHY: Netflix’s current hit is about a teenage girl who commits suicide and leaves behind 13 tapes depicting the exact reason and the people responsible for her suicide. The show is extremely graphic with a plethora of profanity, the F-Word, more than one rape scene, a viewing of the actual slitting of wrists and death of a teen girl, as well as the normalization of underage drinking, homosexuality, and incompetent adults.

Now while I did share my thoughts with the students in the moment, I do not write to condemn either of these things necessarily; I trust your discretion as parents’ regarding what you feel is appropriate for your child in terms of media. (I do, however, think that awareness of what our kids are consuming nine hours of their day is so important to protecting them and helping them make wiser choices.) Especially since it is suggested, according to one study, that 70% of kids hide their online activity from their parents. So what do we do with this ever changing climate of culture and technology we are trying to raise our children in…?

Baymonte Christian School wants to continually come alongside our parents and aid and support in any way we can. In this spirit, here are a few suggestions I have in regards to your children amidst this crazy digital age…

MY SUGGESTION:

  1. Know Their Passwords: Not only is it ok, it is imperative that you know the passwords to you child’s devices and accounts. Privacy is important, but sin tends to thrive in secrecy and even the knowledge that mom and dad could view the things they are viewing acts as a major deterrent in most cases.
  1. Review History Regularly: Check your Netflix history and review the shows that have been watched (by clicking here.) If you do not recognize some, briefly read up a review of it from a trusted source (I recommend Common Sense Media or Plugged In. These are AWESOME websites if you have not seen them before.)
  1. Have Family Guidelines: Talk with your spouse beforehand and agree upon what your family standards are for media (ie: Are we a family who fast forwards through sexual scenes? Do we turn off a movie if it has it? Do we watch R rated movies? etc.) Then as a united front, talk to your kids about your expectations and what is appropriate to view in your home and what the consequences are if your expectations are not met.
  1. Be In The Know: In today’s age of technology, things are always changing. Find a source you trust to keep you in the know about what is happening in the lives of your teens. My personal suggestion is to sign up for a weekly “Culture Translator” email from Axis. It is short, informative, and from what I have read the last four months, relatively accurate. You can preview them or sign up for a free email here.
  1. Talk Openly With Your Kids: Rather than condemn when mistakes are made, create a culture where children first and foremost know that your love for them is unconditional, and that rules and discipline are a part of that love. I also recommend openly talking about things like drugs and sex. If you are not talking about it with them, there is a good chance all their information about such things are coming from media… which is probably one of the worst places they can get information about such things! No matter what they share with you don’t overreact and keep a calm voice when responding. It’s ok to tell your child that you’d like to think about the situation before you respond. Be a safe place for them. I believe the probability that they approach you later in life about such problems are much higher as you have established the culture with them that such topics of conversation are not only ok, but welcomed.
30
May

Architecture Field Trip on the Bay

Architecture elective had a great day by the bay, looking “fly”, sketching and learning about net-zero and green building from Greg Mantz, architect with DPR construction. The kids were able to see a net zero building in action, learn more about garden living walls, solar applications, and use of high-end technology in design. – Mrs. McNeill

 

30
May

Students Enjoy a Day of Art Santa Cruz Style

What could be a better combo of beach, sun, fun and Plein Air watercolor painting! Art elective in action learning to “draw what you see” with watercolor techniques using our beautiful landscape backdrop of Santa Cruz lighthouse and the surf.  A trip to a local glass artist studio rounded off the day, with a glass blowing demonstration and a few fun facts about chemistry of glass and its use in creating sculptural pieces. – Mrs. McNeill

30
May

Eagle Scout Project Benefits Baymonte

Thank you to Hunter Melrose and Boy Scout Troop 674 for landscaping the entrance to the Baymonte Early Childhood Learning Center on Bethany Drive. Hunter, a Baymonte graduate, planned and executed this project as one of his requirements to become an Eagle Scout. We are proud of Hunter and wish him the best as he continues to develop his leadership skills.

23
May

Prevent the Summer Slide

23
May

Golf Team Finishes Strong in the All-League Tournament

The Middle School Golf Team ended their season yesterday by finishing ahead of all the private schools at the all-league golf tournament at Delaveaga.  Baymonte’s 8 man team represented the school well throughout the season.  The majority of the team consists of 6th and 7th graders so we look forward to their participation next year.  We wish our soon to be graduating 8th grader Jacob Meschi much success as he takes his golf game to the next level in high school.

-Coach Byron Finney

 

16
May

“This Was The Best Year Yet”

 

It seems like every year Baymonte goes to Mexico we come back saying, “This was the best year yet!” And to my great pleasure, I am happy to inform you the talk coming home was the same amongst the leadership… we had our best trip yet (until next year that is).

We go down to serve, but often come away learning more and receiving more spiritually than we could ever hope to give. I am beyond proud of our Baymonte family for their heart, passion and love for others as they were in Mexico. We danced, played hours of “trice” (tag), and went out into the community to pick up trash and worship with people of local towns.

The spiritual climate is always high in Mexico, and I look forward to processing through the trip more with our students in the days to follow— but rest assured, God always does amazing things when we step out of our comfort zone and put others before ourselves.

Thank you God for another great year!

-Jared Fujishin

 
11
Apr

Bring A Friend To School Day Success

Baymonte’s Bring A Friend To School Day last Wednesday was a success. We welcomed forty-two students from other schools in our community on our campus for the morning. We received positive feedback from our visitors about our warm, loving teachers, fun activities, engaging chapel, beautiful campus and delicious lunch. It was an exciting day filled with lots of liveliness and fun!

21
Mar

2nd Grade Pond Field Trip 

Warm weather and sunny skies provided optimal conditions for the highly anticipated pond field trip for Mrs. Wilcox’s second grade class. Science came to life as they ventured to a beautiful pond near Quail Hollow Park as they discovered the distinctive environmental characteristics of the pond and collected water samples to take back to their class. In the afternoon students used microscopes to examine the water and found newts, mayfly larva, hydra, tadpoles, water striders, worms, and numerous other aquatic creatures. 

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14
Mar

Meet & Greet with Headmaster for Monte Vista Christian

Baymodownloadnte is hosting a Meet and Greet with Dr. Mitch Salerno, the incoming Headmaster for Monte Vista Christian School. This event is intended for Monte Vista families who live in our area, and Baymonte families considering Monte Vista for high school. This will be our opportunity to meet Dr. Salerno and understand his vision for Monte Vista Christian School.

The Meet and Greet will take place on Thursday April 6th at 7:00 PM in the Culwell Den. We hope you’ll join us for this event. Please RSVP to office@baymonte.org if you are planning to attend.